As a working mom, we are so hard on ourselves. Instead of just owning what we know we are good at doing, we should appreciate our current situation.
I felt guilty no matter what situation I was in. When I was working full-time, I was always comparing myself to the lucky stay-at-home moms. But when I was at home, I was always longing for having adult interactions and intellectual conversations instead of being knee deep in pee and poop!
I had to experience both scenarios to realize I needed a good mix of both. I’ve created the perfect mix of a consulting life, working environment with a flexible schedule allowing myself to still be a good mom. I know not everyone has that luxury.
In Part 1 of Mommy and “Me” we take a look at how I’ve been able to make my dream a reality.
I can be a wife, a mom, a friend, a volunteer. I can be involved. And we can do all of these things.
Here, we look at the stages of motherhood and some of the tools needed to balance a successful career.
The Working Mom of a Newborn
You’re not alone. One in nine women suffer from depression before, during, or after pregnancy. The Centers for Disease Control encourage women to seek help for Postpartum Depression, PPD, from their obstetrician or local hospital.
A nonprofit organization, Postpartum Progress, also can help you find PPD support groups in your area.
Looking back breastfeeding was one of the hardest things to do, especially when back at work full time and away from baby. But it’s so worth it! Statistics show overwhelming health benefits for breast-fed babies. It has even been shown to improve neurodevelopmental outcomes and IQ scores. Breastfeeding moms can find help, learning and support from the La Leche League.
Moms with Toddlers
You’ve heard of the “terrible twos”. It’s more like the twos, threes, fours… Well. You get the idea. When I was home with the kids, their toddler behaviors seemed magnified. I desperately needed an outlet.
Find a mom’s group in your area. You can connect with other parents and do kid friendly activities together. Or a “Mother’s Day Out” program at a local church. They “minister to families by giving parents free time during the week while providing quality care.” Programs typically cater to preschool-aged children and their families.
I’ve experienced first-hand some scary mommy moments as my oldest kids started venturing into social media. Nowadays kids communicate with their friends through various apps. Unfortunately, we had to learn some lessons the hard way. You might be looking for ways to teach social media safety for kids and teens. Common Sense Media is just one of many great resources worth checking out.
A wide variety of nonprofit organizations and online sites can provide tips on raising children with special needs. Be sure to tap into your local community for support groups. And always feel free to turn to your pediatrician for guidance and advice on dealing with specific challenges.
As is at all stages of parenting, you have to be resourceful. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
Keep Your Career on Track
If you’re like me and realize that you are shaped to be a working mom, finding a new job is as easy as one click. We love the list of apps we found through Resume Writing Lab.
I’d love to hear your tips on being a successful working mom and the resources you turn to for help. Please comment or drop me a line.